What’s Your Worst Quality
Talking to my dear friend tonight we started talking about a people related problem I’ve been tackling for long time.
She and I both agreed that the person in question was difficult to work or engage with as her demeanour was deary. It was then that she declared: “That’s the worst thing that anyone could say about anyone else. Imagine having that written on your tombstone. Here lies X, the deary person.”
That made me realise that indeed I needed to do some work on my demeanour. We communicate our feelings and intentions in many subtle ways and they are picked up intuitively. I am most probably causing this other person to feel a sense of dread when I come into view.
So I am going to concentrate on the outcome that I would like when I’m working with this person and imagine what that would be like to experience. Then I am going to let go of the outcome to free me up concentrate hearing and being present rather than in my head grumbling when we are together.
This should make the whole relationship dynamic a very different experience.
Life has many lessons for you when you are willing to act on them.
Posted: July 20th, 2008 under Reducing Stress, nlp.
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Comment from dannon
Time: July 31, 2008, 5:25 pm
That is such a great way of looking at the situation! I am going to try even harder to think about the things I can do, the things I actually have control over. Thanks for the post.
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